The One Skill That Separates Top Leaders from Everyone Else
- Dominique Giger
- 56 minutes ago
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Why Coaching Has Become the Decisive Management Competence
Strategy, technical expertise, analytical excellence-these skills were long considered the core of successful leadership. Yet in a world defined by technological acceleration, global uncertainty, and organizational complexity, the competency profile of effective leaders is fundamentally shifting. The leader of the future is less a traditional decision-maker and more a development architect.
What distinguishes top leaders today is not primarily their ability to provide answers-it is their ability to ask the right questions. It is coaching.
This article explores why coaching has become a strategic core competency of modern leadership, how it differs from mentoring and consulting, which models provide guidance, and why Co-Active Coaching in particular represents a paradigm shift in leadership thinking.
From Deciding to Developing - The Paradigm Shift in Leadership
Traditional management logic is based on control, planning, and optimization. In stable markets, this model worked reliably. Today, however, organizations operate in complex systems: volatile markets, hybrid work models, generational transitions, artificial intelligence, and geopolitical tensions.
In complex systems-described in systems theory-problems do not occur in isolation but as a result of interactions. Leadership thus becomes less about issuing instructions and more about shaping context.
Studies have shown for years that authoritarian or purely transactional leadership styles lose effectiveness in complex environments. A Gallup meta-analysis (2023) indicates that 70% of team performance is directly linked to leadership quality. At the same time, only 23% of employees worldwide feel genuinely engaged. The bottleneck is not competence-but relational and developmental quality.
This is where coaching comes in.
What Coaching Really Is-and What It Isn’t
The International Coaching Federation defines coaching as a collaborative, creative process that encourages people to maximize their personal and professional potential.
This sounds abstract and is often misunderstood:
Coaching is not training.
Coaching is not mentoring.
Coaching is not consulting.
The distinction lies in the distribution of expertise. In coaching, the coach does not provide solutions. Instead, they help the employee discover their own answers. This distinction is critical for effectiveness.
Coaching vs. Mentoring vs. Consulting
Consulting solves specific problems through expertise. The consultant analyzes a situation and proposes solutions. Consulting sells knowledge.
Mentoring is based on sharing experience. An experienced mentor shows paths they themselves have taken. Mentoring sells experience.
Coaching activates the employee’s resources. The coach asks powerful questions that enable employees to develop their own solutions. Coaching sells awareness and perception.
Why is this important for employee development? When employees generate their own solutions, they take responsibility and are far more likely to implement them. The result: sustainable behavioural change rather than short-term knowledge transfer.
Why Coaching Improves Performance - Empirical Evidence
The assumption that coaching is “soft” or primarily focused on personal growth has been empirically disproven.
A meta-study by Theeboom et al. published in the Journal of Positive Psychology, analyzed 18 controlled studies on coaching interventions. Results: coaching had significant positive effects on performance, goal attainment, resilience, and self-efficacy.
Another McKinsey study, The State of Organizations, identified coaching-based leadership as a central success factor in transformation-driven companies. Leaders applying coaching principles report higher employee retention, greater innovation capacity, and lower turnover.
The ROI of coaching has also been studied: according to PwC, organizations achieved an average return on investment of 7:1 for structured coaching programs.
Coaching is thus not a “nice-to-have,” but a strategic performance instrument.
Structure in Conversation - Frameworks as Guidance
Many leaders hesitate to apply coaching, believing they need comprehensive training. In reality, structured models provide helpful guidance:
GROW Model (Goal, Reality, Options, Will/Way Forward): Ideal for beginners, it systematically leads from goal definition through current situation analysis to action options and commitment to next steps.
CLEAR Model (Contract, Listen, Explore, Action, Review): Focuses on building trust and relationships-useful when employees are hesitant to open up.
OSCAR Model (Outcome, Scaling, Know-How, Affirm, Review): Solution-oriented, helpful for employees feeling stuck or overwhelmed.
WOOP Model (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan): Combines positive visualization with realistic obstacle planning-a scientifically grounded approach ideal for behaviour change.
These models provide structure-but they do not define mindset. This is where the crucial difference begins.
Co-Active Coaching - Mindset Over Technique
Co-Active Coaching, developed by the Co-Active Training Institute (CTI) in California, is considered one of the most influential coaching methodologies worldwide. Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, described it as the “bible of coaching guides.” With over 30 years of development and 150,000 graduates worldwide, this approach has become the gold standard in transformative coaching.
“Co-Active” stands for an equal, active partnership between coach and client. Unlike traditional consulting, the client is not seen as a problem to be solved but as creative, resourceful, and whole. This mindset shapes every aspect of the coaching relationship.
Co-Active Coaching rests on four central assumptions:
People are inherently creative, resourceful, and whole.
Coaching addresses the whole person-not just an isolated problem.
The coach “dances in the moment”-presence matters more than a script.
The goal is transformation, not mere behaviour modification.
This mindset shifts focus radically: from deficits to potential, from control to development. In complex organizations, this perspective shift is crucial. Transformation occurs not through instruction but through changes in awareness.
Listening as a Strategic Core Competence
Active listening on multiple levels is one of Co-Active Coaching’s most important skills-and top leaders often excel at it.
Three levels are distinguished:
Level 1: Internal Listening - The inner monologue dominates: “What does this mean for me? What should I answer?” Standard in everyday life but unsuitable for effective coaching.
Level 2: Focused Listening - Full, undivided attention on the other person, noting words, tone, pauses, and emotions. Own inner dialogue recedes. Minimum requirement for effective coaching.
Level 3: Global Listening - Everything is perceived: words, emotions, energy in the room, and the unspoken. A coach on this level notices when a colleague says “yes” but signals hesitation through body language. This presence creates deep connection and enables breakthroughs.
A Harvard Business Review study identified listening as one of the strongest predictors of perceived leadership effectiveness.
Listening is therefore not a social nicety-it is a strategic tool.
Powerful Questions - The Architecture of Thinking
Instructions limit thinking. Questions open spaces.
Instead of:
“Have you spoken with your supervisor yet?”
Better:
“What would change if you had this conversation?”
Questions influence cognitive processes. Research by Kegan and Lahey (Harvard) shows that reflective questions promote development of Adult Development Stages, i.e., higher complexity in thinking.
Coaching is thus an accelerator of development.
Championing - Strengthening Identity, Not Just Performance
Praise addresses results.
Championing strengthens identity.
“Good presentation” evaluates performance.
“Your clarity and persuasiveness made an impact” reinforces self-concept.
Positive psychology shows that identity affirmation has more sustainable effects than simple performance recognition.
Challenges: When Coaching Doesn’t Work
Coaching is not a panacea. Several factors can limit effectiveness:
Lack of coachability: Not all employees are ready for coaching. Organizations must consider coachability when selecting participants.
Toxic organizational culture: Coaching in toxic cultures is like swimming upstream. If vulnerability is punished or political behaviour rewarded, even well-coached employees revert to old patterns.
Conflict of interest: Leaders coaching their own employees risk hidden agendas. True coaching should serve the employee’s interests only.
Trust: The biggest barrier is often establishing a trust-based relationship where the employee feels safe to open up.
For these reasons, many leaders prefer external coaches, who can operate objectively.
Yet external coaching has limits too:
Insufficient coaching competence: Quality varies widely. ICF certification sets a standard but does not guarantee effectiveness. Untrained leaders attempting to coach can do more harm than good.
Distinction from therapy: Coaching is not psychotherapy. According to ICF, 85% of coaches report that clients increasingly seek mental well-being support. The AXA Mental Health Report 2024 shows 31% of Germans report mental health issues; under 25, it’s 41%. Coaches must be trained to recognize issues and refer to therapists.
Coaching as a Competitive Advantage
Why does coaching become a differentiator?
Technological excellence is replicable.
Strategies are replicable.
Capital is mobile.
What cannot be copied is a culture where people take responsibility, reflect, and grow.
Coaching creates precisely this culture.
Leadership in the Age of AI
With generative AI, the competency profile continues to evolve. Knowledge becomes increasingly automated. Value shifts from information to integration.
The question is no longer: “Who knows the most?”
But: “Who can unlock collective intelligence?”
Coaching thus becomes a meta-competence in the AI era.
Summary: The One Skill
Coaching represents a quiet revolution in how we lead, develop, and communicate. In a time where technological disruption and AI make many traditional skills obsolete, the deeply human ability to accompany others in their development grows ever more valuable.
The core principles are simple-but not easy:
Listen actively on all levels.
Ask powerful questions that open thinking spaces.
See and empower people in their potential.
Create a space where transformation is possible.
Leaders do not need to be certified coaches to benefit. Even integrating individual elements-more conscious listening, asking instead of giving quick advice, trusting employees’ abilities-can fundamentally improve the quality of leadership conversations.
The most important skill of a 21st-century leader is no longer being the smartest person in the room. It is the ability to lead conversations that bring out the best in others. Coaching shows the way.
About the Author
Dominique Giger is a speaker, coach, and consultant specializing in mindset, leadership, and transformation. With a Master’s degree in Computer Science from ETH Zurich and over 18 years of international experience in transformation management, she combines deep business expertise with profound psychological and neuroscientific knowledge.
In her podcast Y-SHIFT: The Next-Level Mindset & Transformation Podcast, she regularly shares insights from the world of modern psychology, neuroscience, and leadership development.
Episode on this topic (in German): Folge #29: Die eine Fähigkeit, die Top-Führungskräfte von allen anderen trennt
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/y-shift-next-level-mindset-and-transformation/id1801021329
Sources and Further Reading
Gallup, State of the Global Workplace Report, 2023
McKinsey & Company, The State of Organizations, 2021
PwC, The ROI of Coaching, 2015
Kegan, R., Lahey, L., Immunity to Change, Harvard University Press, 2009
Seligman, M., Flourish, 2011
Deloitte, Global Millennial Survey, 2022
Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., & van Vianen, A. E. M., Does Coaching Work? A Meta-Analysis on the Effects of Coaching on Individual Level Outcomes in an Organizational Context, The Journal of Positive Psychology, 2014
Covey, S. R., The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, 2004
Co-Active Training Institute: https://coactive.com/
International Coaching Federation: https://coachingfederation.org/
ICF Global Coaching Study: https://coachingfederation.org/resources/research/global-coaching-study
